I was never one of those girls that thought much about what my wedding would be like…the dress, the ceremony. Maybe I just didn’t have enough experience with weddings… maybe by the time Bill & I got married, we had lived separately (he was finishing grad school in FL & I was working in Northern VA) for too long & we were both just ready to get on with our lives together.
We got married in the late 80’s – a time period of poufy sleeves, ruffles, lace – all the bells & whistles. When I couldn’t find something that hadn’t been overly bedazzled, we went to a dressmaker took a pattern of my choosing & added just enough ‘extras’ to satisfy but not go overboard.
Here’s my dress – not in too bad a shape for being 35+ years old.
Headache bands were the popular choice for veils at the time. See where my finger is in the picture below – that point left a dent in my forehead for several days 😉
This is what my dress was stored in…a laundry bag that was made for me by a dear family friend when I graduated from high school. I used that all through college – it made the perfect wedding gown storage!
The Alencon Lace was what I loved most about my wedding dress. A heavy, custom sewn lace – I’m sure this piece was made by machine but originally this type of lace was hand couched with a buttonhole type of stitch. It spoke to my love of needlework.
Fast forward a bit as Bill & I raised 2 boys. Not that I thought anyone would ever wear my dress, I did feel strongly that someday, as Mother of the Groom, I would be able to have some small part in the ceremony with a gift of an item made from the lace of my wedding dress.
When Chris & Taylor became engaged, I knew my time had come!! They came bearing a really large box on one of their visits (no laundry bag for this dress!!)
We unsealed Taylor’s Mom’s wedding dress – the dress was in fact inside…I’ve read about stories where the wrong dress gets into the box (or maybe I watch too much TV). I laid the dress hems side by side. While there were obvious differences in the colors & style, I liked the way the lace edge meshed together…I could make this work.
WARNING: I am cutting into these 2 dresses. 😉 Go no further if that is something you don’t want to see (& please don’t send me emails saying that I killed the wedding dresses. There’s memories in the making here folks!)
I quickly got to work with some cotton sateens & gauzy mesh fabrics in several blends of cream & ivory to help blend the 2 dress shades.
Here’s where you can see my plan start to take shape. Nest the scalloped edges at the center – kind of a metaphor for the two families blending.
I chose a pretty ivory satin ribbon & secured it to the center.
Here I’m constructing the back of the pillow – including a special pocket.
Pretty typical pillow construction at this point.
Trim, turn, stuff, slip stitch closed…
With a nice little pocket so the MOB & MOG can slip a little note inside for the happy couple.
So there you have it, simple but full of memories & good wishes. I’m not calling this a ring bearer’s pillow since they are not having a ring bearer, but it could certainly be used as one. For me, it shows our families being joined together & tied with a ribbon of love (cue music & grab the kleenex).
As I was constructing the pillow, I was reminded of another celebration piece that I designed years ago for JCS magazine. I grabbed it out of the ‘vault’ & made it available for sale here on the website as a PDF. It has charting for several special Anniversaries (20, 25, 30, 40, 50 & 60). I love the simple but sophisticated color palette. Stitch one today for your favorite couple (an aida version is included as well).
Thanks for taking a picture walk with me – I am looking forward to my walk down the aisle very soon, on the arm of my handsome son!
Enjoy the stitch,